|3 year old and following directions
||[Sep. 27th, 2005|03:33 pm]
Good Enough Moms
I was wondering if anyone could help me find out how well an average 3 year old is at following simple directions. The 3 year old I watch isn't following the simple directions of put crayon here, (even when I am pointing to the spot). When she is asked to do something, such as help clean up toys, she keeps claiming that she doesn't understand what I am asking her. When you tell her to put something in a box, she doesn't understand "in". She can't draw a reasonaly straight line, and seems to have absolutly no interest in learning new things, such as color names, shapes, numbers and counting. My 18 month old knows shapes and colors better then she does.
And does anyone have any suggestions on how to get her interested again? Help improve her skill at following simple directions? or am i just expecting too much?
I'd have to say that this child is behind for their age in some of the areas you mention but not others.--Assuming they weren't just having an off day, or were pulling your chain.
Unfortunately, for most of these skills, there is a "critical period" whereby once that passes, the child will never have the capacity to learn them as well. The pediatrician should recognize this and recommend an evaluation. How is this child's vocabulary? Do they know a few hundred words at least? Can they say their own name, and age without being given the answer? Certainly a 3 year old should be able to follow instructions and put things in a box when asked.
I happen to think there is little or nothing you can do to help except take the hard step to talk to the parents (which of course is awkward, cause no one wants to hear about how you think their child is slow.) Unless of course you are seeing this child more then they are!
If your 18 month old knows his shapes and colors, that is the other end of remarkable. According to the Learning Disabilities Association of America, the average 3 year old cannot name any colors, and by the time they ar 4 can name one.
Here is a sample "Developmental milestones"http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/002002.htm
and my just-turned-three-yr-old can name several colors, can count to ten, can draw a circle reasonably well... but does not answer, "what's your name?" or "how old are you?" He does say things like "I want the dice." and "Yay! Sandwiches!" and he sings a very pretty "itsy bitsy spider." Looking at whole children rather than checklists is always a good idea.
I think most three year olds follow direction sporadically.
See, and these are the kid of things I need to hear. I don't have a 3 year old, so I have no idea what to look for. To a degree she is very easily distracted, but like any child not if it's something she really likes. Maybe she's just not ready, or used to having to follow directions.
Looking at whole children rather than checklists is always a good idea.
Here, here! Of course the lists, like any diagnostic, serves the helpful function of allowing those unable to spend lots, and lots of time with the child (i.e. the doctor) identify problems that the parent may not, out of love for the child, ignorance, or whatever.
Really. The average 3 year old can't name any colors? Caitie already has the whole basic 8 crayola box and then some (pink, gray, etc.) In total she definately knows at least 10. Heck she sorts things by color for kicks. She's also been naming shapes for more than half a year. She can count to 15, twenty on a good day.
What kids are these lists based on?
Sorry that was a combination shock and brag post there. Hmmm...
Hey, you can brag about MY niece any day :)
You are right about "lists" for sure. Sometimes it is nice to see what normal is, so that you can see how far your kid is exceeding normal thanks to your extraordinary great parenting :)
I was wrong. I just asked Caitie what her name is and how old she is, and she answered both questions correctly. Guess she just doesn't want to do so for strangers (and wisely, I might add). ;)
We did get into some debate over my age, however. She doesn't really understand the concept of "thirty" or "older" as of yet. Bigger, yes. Older, no.
Yeah, I just had a 5 year old tell me I was 100, so I figure that's in the ballpark.
I realized that while my little guy doesn't like to answer "what's you name?" He does put on motorcycle boots and do a rap thing, crossing his arms accross his chest and pitching his voice really low: "Hey Mom! I'm [name]! Watcha' Know?!"