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Good day [Dec. 29th, 2008|04:42 pm]
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It was a nice Christmas, but it was really weird--there were no "Santa" gifts this year under my tree.
No dolly, no bikes, no little red wagon under the tree.
Well, since my baby is now a senior, that is probably not too unexpected, but it still felt wrong to have a tree with no dolly from Santa.
I wanted to give her a laptop, but the ones that I can afford are not the ones that she wants. The cheap intro laptop they sell as a come-on will not meet her needs, and I am not willing to pay that kind of big bucks for just one kid for Christmas, or the other three (plus a son-in-law!) would really feel left out and hurt. I worked very hard at keeping the money "even" between them on their presents. I figure anybody that thinks kids don't keep score MUST have been an only child!
So no laptop. And no drama.
It was all pretty low-key around here, and in my world, having a Christmas with no drama and no tears is definitely something to celebrate!
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Home schooling programs [May. 20th, 2006|01:54 pm]
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Can anyone point me in the direction of some good pre-school home schooling programs? I thought of trying to devise my own, but let's face it, I'm just no good at that. I AM good at following a program and augmenting it for my son's interests, my resources, and adding additional learning, but I do need something to start from.
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(no subject) [Mar. 11th, 2006|12:15 pm]
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[mood |amusedamused]

I had a real "good enough" day yesterday. Here are some of the things that happened with my 16 month old:

The parents-in-law rang. As per usual, I put the phone up to Xander's ear so he could hear them. As per usual, his eyes got very big and he got solemn. As NOT per usual, instead of going quiet, he very clearly said... "Sh*t!"

The day before, I had a chocolate deficiency crisis and gave him to hubby while I hid in our room eating chocolate chips. We woke up in the morning wondering why he was so quiet, and he'd climbed out of our bed and was sitting in the corner eating my bag of chocolate chips.
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Interesting article about SIDS [Nov. 20th, 2005|12:58 pm]
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Testosterone May Play Role in SIDS

Does anyone have any information on the number of males comapred to females who have died due to SIDS? I know that more research still needs to be done, but it would be interesting to see if more male babies die of SIDS compared to females.
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(no subject) [Oct. 24th, 2005|05:30 pm]
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[mood |sadsad]
[music |various and erratic loud thumping, clattering, vocal improv]

I had a really painful discussion with my temporary-housemate (and very good friend) today. It turns out she is still upset about an episode last week when I spoke sharply to her. It was the first time she'd mentioned it. The conversation was in the context of having another somewhat difficult conversation, and when we hugged at the end of that, things didn't seem ok, so I asked, and yes, she was still upset with me, but about this previous thing. I apologized, and explained what had been going on with me when I spoke rudely, but things really weren't ok. She didn't seem to forgive me no matter how much I was willing to admit I was wrong. That's her perrogative. Then things got more painful. She was telling me that what was hard for her, was that I spoke to her the way her mother did/does, and she didn't like hearing that from me. Then something came up with my 5yo son, and I spoke kinda sharply to him, and then I said, to her, "just like that I guess." She assented, yes, I had spoken to her much like that. I told her I was sorry, again, and then I told my son I was sorry, and tried to help him with what he was doing...

But I feel like shit. I feel like I speak horribly to my intimates. I know my sister spiralsongkat has been upset with me when I've started speaking to her the way I speak to my husband, and another time the way I speak to my kids. I know I've noticed that sometimes I speak to my husband in tones I wouldn't use with my more recently developed sweetie (We're poly). In the past, I've been upset with myself that I holler at the kids. My husband and another good friend of mine have told me that the really think I don't. My husband also said, regarding the painful conversation I had earlier, that our temp-housemate is oversensitive; and he thinks I don't speak rudely to the children.

I don't know. I want to be patient, and wonderful, and respectful, and loving. I also want to be a clear (if not utterly unquestionable) authority, and I want us to be able to do stuff, which doesn't seem to be possible without my taking a firm tone once in a while.

I've also been down on myself for not doing enough homeschooling activities, and not providing healthy snacks in a reliable way. (I feed them when they ask for food, for the most part. Only breakfast and dinner get planned, for the most part, of late.)

I've also noticed I can't think clearly when they're around, and here they come, so I guess I'll stop there.

Except to clarify, I know I'm not a horrible bad mother, but I want to be so much better, and I was crying about that today. So I figured, good opportunity to see if we can get a little chat going on the good-enough-moms community. How are the rest of you feeling lately?
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3 year old and following directions [Sep. 27th, 2005|03:33 pm]
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[mood |draineddrained]

I was wondering if anyone could help me find out how well an average 3 year old is at following simple directions. The 3 year old I watch isn't following the simple directions of put crayon here, (even when I am pointing to the spot). When she is asked to do something, such as help clean up toys, she keeps claiming that she doesn't understand what I am asking her. When you tell her to put something in a box, she doesn't understand "in". She can't draw a reasonaly straight line, and seems to have absolutly no interest in learning new things, such as color names, shapes, numbers and counting. My 18 month old knows shapes and colors better then she does.

And does anyone have any suggestions on how to get her interested again? Help improve her skill at following simple directions? or am i just expecting too much?
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(no subject) [Jun. 23rd, 2005|12:14 pm]
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[mood |frustratedfrustrated]

I really, really, really, really, really want to clean my blankety-blank house.

I really hate the tone of voice I am using with my five year old right now.

Sometimes parents sit at the computer and shut things out becuase it is preferable to the interaction they might be having otherwise.

Excuse, my two year old is trashing my cd collection.
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This is just sad... [Jun. 9th, 2005|09:00 pm]
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You would expect more from a 1st world country like the US.
U.S. failing to meet infant mortality goals
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I'm sure you can relate... [May. 17th, 2005|09:16 am]
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[mood |exhaustedexhausted]

Midnight. Screaming fit. Boobie. Tooth. Nefarious purposes. No boobie. Boobie. Tooth. Nefarious purposes. No boobie. Screaming. Screaming, screaming, screaming. Wind. Teething drops. Screaming, screaming, screaming. Burp. Shadow puppets. Smiles. Boobie. Bed. 2 am. Talk to himself. Bang toys. 3am.

I dreamed he cut seven teeth. I guess I figured that would make all the fuss worthwhile, heh.
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(no subject) [May. 2nd, 2005|10:09 am]
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Lydia finally got a tooth. She has chewed her finger to shreds. She has been eating much better since it popped through. She's been taking 20+ oz per day instead of the usual 15-20. I was very engouraged until Friday.
Friday was horrible. It was as bad as one of her worst days in the hospital. All I can figure is that he second tooth must be trying to get through. I pumped her full of Tylenol and Orajel. She can't have the Hyland's Teething Tablets that everyone says are so great. Nothing helped. We rocked and rocked. Finally, I rocked and she slept and I watched movies. I rocked all the way through The Girl Next Door and The Last Samurai (sp?) without stopping.
Saturday, she was all smiles and giggles and went to her first birthday party. She went with her crazy grandmother. I ran errands.
Sunday, we went furniture shopping. We bought a Hutch Cabinet and a Table and Chairs. Yeah. It's like being grown ups now. Everything we have has mostly been donated to us. Lydia liked the furniture store.
We started feeding her babyfood too. Last week, she ate bananas and didn't like them much. On Saturday, she ate a whole jar of apple sauce. Yeah. Sunday, we tried sweet potatoes. The dogs got most of that. Lydia like blowing them everywhere.
Once again, she isn't sleeping through the night. She has become really good at rolling from her front to her back. We put her to sleep on her from and she rolls right over. Then she wakes up and screams. Poop. We put her back on her belly and she does it again. This went on all night last night. Hopefully, one of two things will happen soon. Either she will learn to like sleeping on her back or she will learn to roll from her back to her front. I don't care which one happens but something has got to give.
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