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Had to share this quote... [Apr. 23rd, 2005|10:22 am]
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[mood |cheerfulcheerful]
[music |Lazytown]

"The most important thing she'd learned over the years was that there was no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one."
--Jill Churchill

Have a beautiful day, all you moms and lovers of moms!
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need to share this [Apr. 5th, 2005|07:30 pm]
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So Caitie is going through an aggressive period (she's almost 2). It started with her just staring at little boys, but it's gotten worse over the last month or so.

Today at my MOMS Club meeting, I had to run and grab her away from kids at least 5 times. She kept going for their faces. Yesterday, she went for a little boy's eyes and actually scratched him right by the tear duct. Since she's young, there's little I can do to make her understand that this is wrong. I pull her away, I sit her alone and I explain in simple language that it hurts people, but so far, it hasn't really helped.

Anyway, as you can expect, I feel awful. I feel like a horrible mom, not only because my kid is being such a bully, but because I know how upsetting it can be went your kid gets picked on. (Wait. Actually, I don't. Caitie has pretty much always been the aggressor. I can imagine though.)

So I left the meeting feeling frustrated and upset, and apologizing to everyone in site.

Just a moment ago one ofthe MOMS club members called me. She wanted to let me know that she could see how upset I was. She reminded me that Caitie is a really sweet, curious child, whom every adores. She reminded me that I'm a great mom. And she reminded me that this will pass, that lots of kids do it, and that I'm doing the "right thing" when I deal with her aggression. Mind you, this is the mom of one of the kids that Caitie has been habitually picking on.

I can't even tell you how much that meant. I mean, we aren't really very close. And for her to call out of the blue like that really meant a lot. Thinking about it actually, the support of another friend, who's son has also been one of Caitie's favorites, has been really great too. I figure if they can be understanding, then I can too... and not wig out on my daughter or myself.

Ok. Now I'm crying.

So I just wanted to share that. I want to be like that mom. I want us all to be like that mom. This is my mental note to reach out more often to others.
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Post Surgery Questions [Mar. 28th, 2005|03:09 pm]
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Lydia is finally home and is doing well since her surgery. She is pretty much her old self with the exception of being a little "people shy." Her incisions are healing nicely and she doesn't seem to be having any health problems except the usual feeding and digestion issues.
Lydia is, however, very behind on her developmental progress. At 4 months and 3 weeks, she is almost like a newborn again. She is eating small amounts around the clock and she cannot soothe herself to sleep. She wakes up several times in the night and sometimes, she just wants to be held. She is no longer pushing up and is not attempting to roll over at all.
We started physical therapy with her in the hospital and they showed me an exercise to strengthen her torso but that is all. Now that we are home, we have to arrange a developmental assesment and be referred to a physical therapist here. That could take weeks or months before we can get started with the actual physical therapy.
I realize that she has undergone 2 major surgeries in the past few weeks and that this is to be expected. I'm not trying to push her to do things but I want to help her out where I can.
Does anyone know of a good place where I can see what skills she should have at her age and what skills she should be working on? Also, it would be great to know how I can encourage her to do these things.
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Pretend Play [Mar. 15th, 2005|04:03 pm]
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[mood |curiouscurious]

So, I was watching the Discovery Channel, again, and they have this series called "The Human Baby". Really an interesting series and I would love to have the entire thing on DVD so I could watch it constantly. Today they had this thing on socialization and they did a part about pretend play. Basically, they said that it isn't until they are about 20-24 months old before they begin true pretend play. That at around 14-16 months they are doing imitation. Well, Colin has been putting people in his car and making the "Broooom" sound while he pushes them around (started this at 10 months). He also started taking one of his toy airplanes and flying it through the air making an "zooom" sound for lack of better description. So, my question to all of you, is that do beleive that he is immitating actions that we do when playing with him, or that he is pretend playing. Also, how can you really distinguish between pretend play and immitation?
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consistency [Mar. 14th, 2005|04:42 pm]
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Not long ago, a friend and I were discussing consistency in parenting. Or maybe, to be honest, we were more discussing how we really should have more consistency in our parenting. It's one of those things. I'm tough as nails about the "no food unless you're in your highchair" rule, until I come down with a nasty cold, or life is crazed and we're running from one place to another, or my head is about to explode bcause she's been screaming at me for the last half-hour.

I feel bad about it, because I know, logically, that the constant and persistant I am with the "rules", the more successful I'll be in molding her bahaviour in favorable ways. ON the other hand, I also know, logically, that I ain't nowhere near perfect... so I'm going to bend sometimes. And that doesn't even begin to deal with the difference between my parenting and the child rearing of my husband or mother.

I guess what worries me is the: How much bending is too much?
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quick post [Mar. 10th, 2005|08:54 am]
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My nephew's first birthday was last weekend. We framed a nice copy of the pledge below (adapted from Mother's Nature) and asked everyone in attendance to sign the mat. It made a really nice keepsake. I thought you may all enjoy reading it.
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Lydia Update [Mar. 5th, 2005|12:34 pm]
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I just wanted to let you all know that Lydia is doing well. She had her surgery yesterday and is in the PICU. Things are going goo though. All of her numbers are looking goo right now and she is resting peacefully.
I set up a care page for her at www.carepages.com. You can go there to track her progress. Just log on and create a user name and pass word. Lydia's page is called LydiaKate (all one word.) I'll try to keep it updated. I can't put pics on right now because we are at the hospital and I forgot to bring the USB cable to my camera.
Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers. Things are going well so they must be helping!
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I hope today isn't going to be repeated often [Mar. 3rd, 2005|03:14 pm]
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[mood |guiltyguilty]
[music |Lilo and Stitch, the series]

Today I am letting my kids have "watch all the TV you want day," while I clean the house and do other chores. Part of the problem with homeschooling, is I tend to think every day must be fantastically supportive of their little developing selves. I feel kinda bad about watching them be couch potatos. My goal is that by doing this today, we'll be better situated on other days.

I could write a whole lot more about this, but just thought I'd throw out a quick thought and then get back to being productive.

Happy Thursday, folks.
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Teefies [Feb. 28th, 2005|08:19 am]
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I do believe my baby girl is getting her first teeth. After a very stressful weekend, this is the conclusion I have come to. Poor kiddo. Beginning last week, she was fussier and fussier while eating. She's like that off and on but it got worse and worse until, o Saturday, she only ate 17oz. On Sunday, it was even less and I was pretty worried. She would try to eat and then she would cry and stop. No fever. Not a huge amount of drool. Just more sleeping and more fist-chewing. It never even crossed my mind that she might be getting teeth. She's only 4 months old. Finally, my mom told me that my brother and I both had teeth at 4 months. My husband had them at 5 months. Unpon hearing that, I made a mad dash to the store and purchased every teething remedy known to man. $56 later, we now have a supply of Ora-Jel, several teethers and Baby Tylenol. LydiaCakes is much happier and eating again.
Happy Day! Now we have teething to add to Lydia's List Of Ailments. She also has Exzema and is having Open Heart Surgery on Friday. We should be having a few really wonderful weeks ahead of us. Generally, I don't mind the more unpleasant tasks of Mothering but this weekend really had me frazzled. I am hoping that I will be able to destress after the surgery and will be able to take the other problems in stride. That is what I hope.
So tell me, how long does teething last? I realize that it will be an off and on thing for the next few years but how long does each bout last? Are we talking days or weeks? How long before I get to see the teefies? What did you use to get you through this? Ora-Jel and Tylenol seem to be working. Lydia is tempted by the cold Teethers but really doen't like them much.
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Autism in America [Feb. 27th, 2005|02:35 pm]
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I guess these two articles sort of piggy-back each other. I'm still trying to finish reading the Newsweek one...Oh, my kingdom for a little time to finish reading an article


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